Our head of catering Hannes, reviews the books he reads.
This week Hannes read a a book on life's success and long term fulfilment.
I very much enjoyed the frequent references to Martial arts ;-)
The most eye-opening inside from this book came in the description of different kinds of people - or rather behaviours: The dabbler, the obsessive, the hacker and finally the master. Instead of trying to "hack" our way through life and look for shortcuts we should embrace the slow continuous improvement that comes through diligent practise for practise sake.
West, we have been withdrawing from our tradition-, religion-and even nation-centred cultures, partly to decrease the danger of group conflict.
RULE 1 / Stand up straight with your shoulders back
You can delay gratification, without forgoing it forever. You can afford to be a reliable and thoughtful
I have had many clients whose anxiety was reduced to subclinical levels merely because they started to sleep on a predictable schedule and eat breakfast.
People who refuse to muster appropriately self-protective territorial responses are laid open to exploitation as much as those who genuinely can’t stand up for their own rights because of a more essential inability or a true imbalance in power.
is very little difference between the capacity for mayhem and destruction, integrated, and strength of character. This is one of the most difficult lessons of life.
So, attend carefully to your posture. Quit drooping and hunching around. Speak your mind. Put your desires forward, as if you had a right to them—at least the same right as others. Walk tall and gaze forthrightly ahead. Dare to be dangerous. Encourage the serotonin to flow plentifully through the neural pathways desperate for its calming influence.
RULE 2 / Treat yourself like someone you are responsible for helping
It is far better to render Beings in your care competent than to protect them. Question for parents: do you want to make your children safe, or strong?
Yeah. Let your kids and team members fail and hurt themselfes. That's the only way to grow.
You are, therefore, morally obliged to take care of yourself. You should take care of, help and be good to yourself the same way you would take care of, help and be good to someone you loved and valued.
I like that sentiment.
You must determine where you are going, so that you can bargain for yourself, so that you don’t end up resentful, vengeful and cruel.
Very similar to Radical Candor.
RULE 3 / Make friends with people who want the best for you
If you surround yourself with people who support your upward aim, they will not tolerate your cynicism and destructiveness.
I noticed that I have no friends outside work...
RULE 4 / Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today
There’s some real utility in gratitude. It’s also good protection against the dangers of victimhood and resentment.
When do you dislike your parents, your spouse, or your children, and why? What might be done about that?
Dare, instead, to be dangerous. Dare to be truthful. Dare to articulate yourself, and express (or at least become aware of) what would really justify your life.
Perhaps happiness is always to be found in the journey uphill, and not in the fleeting sense of satisfaction awaiting at the next peak.
I was afraid of that...
RULE 5 / Do not let your children do anything that makes you dislike them
However, children would not have such a lengthy period of natural development, prior to maturity, if their behaviour did not have to be shaped. They would just leap out of the womb, ready to trade stocks.
RULE 6 / Set your house in perfect order before you criticize the world
Have you taken full advantage of the opportunities offered to you? Are you working hard on your career, or even your job, or are you letting bitterness and resentment hold you back.
Working on it.
Are you treating your spouse and your children with dignity and respect? Do you have habits that are destroying your health and well-being? Are you truly shouldering your responsibilities? Have you said what you need to say to your friends and family members? Are there things that you could do, that you know you could do, that would make things around you better? Have you cleaned up your life?
On it!Buy the book here